A few ideas stayed with me this week — all circling around the same theme:
Your reputation is not built in one dramatic moment.
It is built in the first 90 days of a new role.
In how you make decisions.
In how you treat people when there is nothing obvious to gain.
In how you show up in a room.
And in how well your life works behind the scenes.
Here are five ideas to take into the week.
1. The First 90 days Matter More Than We think
The first 90 days in a new role are not just about learning the job.
They are also about shaping the way people experience you.
Are you present?
Are you engaged?
Are you composed under pressure?
Are you comfortable in your own skin?
Are you approachable, clear, and decisive?
People form impressions quickly. And once those impressions settle, they can be difficult to shift.
So the first 90 days are not a time to perform a version of yourself that is impossible to sustain.
They are a time to show people your leadership operating system:
how you think, how you communicate, how you build trust, and how you contribute.
Start strong. Stay human. Be intentional.
2. The Future of Executive Presence Is In Judgment
Executive presence used to be associated with polish, charisma, confidence, and the ability to command a room.
Those things still matter.
But as AI makes polished answers easier to produce, the future of executive presence will depend less on sounding impressive — and more on the quality of your judgment.
People don’t only want your conclusion.
They want to understand how you think.
This doesn’t mean sharing every doubt or overexplaining every decision.
It means making your reasoning visible.
State the problem clearly.
Separate facts from assumptions.
Name the trade-offs.
Explain why a decision matters.
Ask where your thinking may be incomplete.
That kind of leadership builds trust.
Because people trust leaders who do not simply have answers.
They trust leaders they can understand.
3. Never Burn The Bridge
Imagine that fifteen years from now, you walk into a meeting where a group of people is discussing your future.
And one person in that room remembers you.
Not because of your CV or your title.
But because of how you treated them years earlier, in a small, seemingly unimportant moment.
This is the kind of story Dr. Tina Seelig from Stanford shares in her work on luck and serendipity.
Her message is simple but powerful:
What we call luck is often shaped by our decisions and actions long before the opportunity appears.
We create more possibility by how we behave when nobody is watching.
By giving people the benefit of the doubt.
By staying generous.
By doing the right thing.
By not treating relationships as transactions.
Luck often travels through people.
Try not burn bridges casually.
4. Make A Statement With a Blazer
There is a reason well-dressed leaders often wear beautifully fitted clothes.
A great blazer does not shout.
It signals.
Structure.
Intention.
Presence.
Readiness.
Actor Don Johnson recently said he has been having his jackets made by a Korean tailor since the 1990s. And when you look at people like Pierce Brosnan, Christine Lagarde ECB, or Ida Liu HSBC, the pattern is clear: fit matters.
A tailored jacket is one of the simplest ways to elevate your presence.
Clothes alone can’t create leadership but they can support the message you want to send before you say a word.
The right blazer says:
I came prepared.
I know who I am.
I respect the room.
And I am ready to contribute.
5. A Great Career and A Great Life
David Brooks once wrote that if you have a great career and a poor marriage, you will be unhappy — but if you have a great marriage and a poor career, you may still be happy.
There is truth in the importance of our closest relationships.
A good relationship can steady us, strengthen us, and make life feel meaningful in a way career achievement alone rarely can.
But I would add something.
Life is not lived in separate compartments.
What happens at work comes home with us.
What happens at home comes into our work.
If we are deeply unhappy in one major area of life, eventually it affects the others.
So the goal is not to choose between a meaningful career and a meaningful personal life.
The goal is to stop believing that one can fully compensate for the other.
Both matter.
And perhaps the real art is learning to build a life where success doesn’t require major sacrifices in any direction.
A question for the week
Where are you currently shaping your reputation — daily, and maybe without realising it?
In a new role?
In a difficult decision?
In a relationship?
In how you show up?
In what you keep postponing?
Pay attention to the small moments.
They may be building more of your future than you think.
I’d love to hear what is shifting in your life and work.
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Bon weekend.